Happiness is among the most basic concepts for a human to understand. Yet, to many, it can become a struggle to achieve it. You can have a good job, good family, good friends, and yet, still not happy. This is often because, you’re not satisfied with yourself, even those with high self-esteem can struggle with having a failing idea of self. It can be so terribly hard to compete with your mind in this. It seems perhaps that your mind is always making you struggle to improve yourself, your situation, or your outlook. Everyone has this idea of what you want to be, and if you’re not fulfilling that idea, happiness can often be tough to achieve. It may seem unfair, or even stupid, being sad when your world is seemingly fantastic, but really it’s not. It’s a normal thing that most people deal with, finding out who you want to be, and then going for it.
If you’re reading this article, there’s a good chance that you are searching for ways to improve your happiness. I’m no expert, however, I, like many others, have had to deal with this struggle, sometimes more than others. I have learned from it, and I will continue to learn from it, and can share things that I think are important to find happiness.
Your health is so incredibly important. I used to believe that my health doesn’t matter and I would do things that were very unhealthy, however, that is definitely wrong. You cannot be truly happy if your health is bad. I used to be so incredibly shy to go to the gym, there would be no way I could. Then a friend came with me and encouraged me and it helped me see the absolute importance of being fit. Exercising itself has massive benefits in of itself. Simply, it makes your brain happy. Even if you can’t go to a gym or a fitness club, you can start out with little baby steps. Exercising in your home, taking your dog for walks, whatever can help you, because your health is so very important to living a long and happy life.
People always say that you should do what you love, and perhaps some of you are in the same boat I am. In high school, I was confused, I didn’t know what I wanted to do. People always asked me for help with their homework or other class work, and people often called me one of the smart kids, whatever that means. So I decided to try and fit what I deemed the mould of a smart kid. I had already a lot of experience with computers as I played a lot of PC games, so I decided to pursue becoming a Computer Programmer – a fantastic profession. You find solutions to tough problems, create this intricate web of coding, it looked and was fun. I taught myself a few programming languages, took some classes, and began to pursue it in college after high school. However, I have come to realize in the last two years or so, that it’s not for me. While sometimes I enjoyed it, others I really hated it. I’ve decided to work more on the creative side of things. Creating things still, but in a different way. The lesson I took from this was that you shouldn’t just decide to make yourself fit some mould that you or someone else gave you, you need to discover what makes you happy and pursue it, and don’t worry about what others say, because it’s your happiness that matters the most.
So many times when you’re depressed, unhappy, or just generally sad, you get in a rut. A rut of not wanting to do anything. Perhaps laziness, or even perhaps thinking there is nothing worth doing. You lie in bed all day, you watch videos all day, play games all day, day in and day out. Nothing in your life is changing except maybe you’re improving your call of duty kill-to-death ratio. It can be really tough to find motivation to do anything when you’re in this rut. What I’ve found works for me is journaling and talking to others. When I journal, I not only say what I’ve done that day, I also talk about how I feel and if it’s negative, it’s easy to see that and I try to find a way to fix that. Although unfortunately not everyone has incredible friends, I find that the friendships I’ve built can be really motivating. When I talk to my friends and see what they’ve been up to, it can often help motivate me to do things. For example, my best friends love to go to the gym and will often post pictures of their sessions. Every single time I see them do that it makes me want to exercise as well. I think keeping communication up with friends or family or whoever is close to you, is important. Trust me, the ones that love you the most can definitely be the harshest and most helpful in motivating you.
Closing this article, I point out a quote from the Dalai Lama. “Happiness is not ready made. It comes from your actions.” Remember that – people who are happy, weren’t born like that. They had to make themselves happy and you can too. Love yourself first, and so many things in your life will be better. I believe in you.